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Top 3 Things I’ve Learned from the Passenger’s Seat As My Teenager Learns to Drive

April 30, 2017 by Barnaby

Pippa recently got her driver’s learners permit. You might remember that she turned 16 in January.

I’m not sure what it’s like in other states, but in Maryland, they’ll give a learner’s permit to just about anyone, as long as you’re old enough and have OK vision. Oh, and you have to answer a bunch of questions on a computer. Yes, a computer. You get nowhere near those 2-ton missiles we call cars.

Then you are released to your parent or guardian, who I guess is supposed to give the kid on-the-job training on how to drive.

A learner’s permit allows for the student to drive anywhere at any time (except the wee hours), as long as there is a license-wielding adult in the car.

After a couple months of this, I don’t know how much Pippa has learned, but I’ve learned a lot.

Here are the Top 3 Things I’ve Learned from the Passenger’s Seat As My Teenager Learns to Drive. Turns out, these lessons are widely applicable, so I’ve included those broader take-homes here as well.

1. Never Assume Someone Knows Something

This was revealed early on. The permit still a hint of warm from the laminator, I trustingly give Pippa the keys to my Scion xD (manual transmission) and slide into the backseat (Grey had shotgun). I was torn – do I say something and risk her ire, or keep quiet and see how things go?

A compromise – just one point: “Pippa, the most important thing is…”

She cuts me off: “I know, I know, don’t stall the car.”

Me: “Umm…that’s actually the least important thing. The most important thing is to not run into anything. You can stall the car all day long, just don’t ding the fenders.”

Broader Application: If you’re the expert and you’re teaching someone else (especially a teenager), don’t assume they know anything. It can be painful, but you need to risk the eye roll (when they think you have said something obvious). This applies to good money management as much as it does to driving. Mistakes in either sphere can have profound negative consequences.

2. Get As Much Early Practice As You Can

How, you ask, can I hand over the keys of a manual transmission to Pippa on Day 1 and not have it be a unending lurch-fest? Lots of practice on farm roads and parking lots. My sister has a small farming operation on Long Island, and Pippa has spent many hours hiccuping and weaving around it, all while balanced on the front edge of the pulled-all-the-way-up driver’s seat.

Driving is a confidence game, and nothing instills confidence like experience. Pippa still isn’t ready to stop and start on a 20 degree incline without wailing and teeth-gnashing, but she’s miles ahead (heh) of other drivers her age.

Broader Application: You know how you are supposed to talk to infants before they have any idea what you are talking about? Then you learn before long that they actually understood waaaay more than you thought? Same thing with other important life lessons, be it related to the financial or the Divine (“Suffer the little children…”).

3. Don’t Change Lanes if You Can’t See

A few days later, we go for another ride. We tool along a 4-lane road (2 lanes each way). I ask Pippa to change lanes every once in a while so she gets practice doing it smoothly.

Everything seems to be going OK, but Pippa is getting increasingly anxious, especially during lane changes. I guess that makes sense because there aren’t any lane changes on a farm. But my gut compels me to ask: “What’s wrong?”

“I don’t know if there is anyone there when I change lanes!”

“WHAT?!? Stop the car!”

The car careens to the nearest open curb.

I try to speak calmly: “Pippa honey, you can’t change lanes if you don’t know if anyone is there. That’s the way you break Dad’s car. And that makes Dad very hard to be around.”

I do a quick tutorial on how you use a combination of mirrors and over-the-shoulder looks, and Pippa is good to go.

Broader Application: Don’t make financial decisions based on limited, incomplete information. Do your due diligence, then act decisively, not the other way around. Decisions made with your eyes closed work out OK some of the time, as Pippa found, but an eventual ugly pileup is inevitable.

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Filed Under: Kids & Finance Tagged With: changing lanes blindly, driving as financial metaphor, early practice, financial assumptions, maryland learner's permit, scion xd, teenager learning to drive

Comments

  1. Queen Mum says

    May 1, 2017 at 11:22 pm

    After I passed ‘the test’ and got my first driver’s license, of course I wanted to to go somewhere (anywhere) in my dad’s car all by myself. He bravely handed me the keys with only 3 restrictions. Keep your eyes on the road, don’t change lanes without a good reason, and never make another driver put on his brakes because of something you do. Short and easy to remember. And sure, it all had a broader application for the rest of my life.

    • Barnaby says

      May 2, 2017 at 7:17 am

      Wise parents!

  2. Juan says

    May 2, 2017 at 7:47 pm

    Not only is this good advice financially, but the information is a reminder for me as I take my driver’s test Saturday! Great post both ways.

    • Barnaby says

      May 3, 2017 at 7:44 am

      Happy to help!

  3. The One In Debt says

    May 2, 2017 at 11:27 pm

    My daughter just got her learner’s permit, too. And she can’t change lanes yet. She doesn’t understand how to use the mirrors before lane change or look to the side without swerving the other direction as she looks. the concept of cars in the side mirrors is not jiving with her. I need to find a way to help her get the hang of this.
    The program she attends gives her (3) 2hr lessons. So hopefully at her 2nd lesson they can help her out with this (and freeway driving). It definitely is nerve wracking for me to sit without pedals on my side. And I get the ‘tude from her when I try to give her tips. haha. It’s a difficult situation for both parent and child. Best to continued success to you and Pippa.

    • Barnaby says

      May 3, 2017 at 7:44 am

      Haha, I have great sympathy for you. This too shall pass.

  4. Troy @ Market History says

    May 6, 2017 at 5:37 pm

    When I learned how to drive, I loved driving with my dad and hated driving with my mom in the passenger’s seat. My dad would be super chill, while my mom would freak out about every little transgression on the road (probably because my dad is a much better driver than my mom).

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